Okay, I have to think I’m not the only one… I looked over Care Bear’s work and was pretty disappointed with how many corners are cut. I’m beating myself up big time. Literally crying while making dinner last night feeling like the ultimate failure in a homeschooling parent. How could I miss it for so long? Why did I not check sooner?
The answer is because Care Bear likes doing it on her own and I want to help her feel independent. She almost never asks for help, and because she has been a steller student whenever she has a professional teacher, I let it go. This has been our cycle for quite some time: I will routinely check on her, then comes a busy week and it gets out of the routine. Another scenario is it is time to check in with her work and there’s some reason it isn’t ready, can’t be checked, or we don’t have time. Care Bear won’t bring it up on her own, nor will she offer up her work. She is happiest going off on her own to do her work and just telling me when she’s done for the day. She’s told me this makes her feel the most grown up.
Now a couple months later, I’m finding that all my reminding and nagging on how the work should be completed was in vain. In all fairness, I should say that Care Bear would probably still be a B student in school with this level work, but it is the amount of skipping steps and cutting corners that I can’t accept. It isn’t a matter of not understanding, it’s a matter of not wanting to complete the work.
Moving forward: I definitely need to be more involved in her daily work. How to be more involved and manage a toddler, well, I guess we’ll have to figure that out. We already use Little Miss’s nap time to work together, but that needs to be more focused time instead of just an opportunity. Care Bear starting school earlier is also an option since Little Miss usually watches some TV early in the morning and eats breakfast. There’s some TV time in the afternoon as well, so I’m looking at that as the time to check in for the day.
The biggest change will need to be my attitude. I need to look at homeschooling more as a full time job than a tutor that’s available. Currently, I spend most of my time finding the resources and planning how we will implement them, then I hand over the plan to Care Bear. I work with her for a full two weeks to a month, but in the process of the work being completed after it’s all setup, I’m not as hands on. That has to change.
So, help me out here… please tell me I’m not the only one who’s learned I need to step it up. Yesterday was rough.